Re-written ending What would have happened if John had not chosen death?
If you suspect that you have these traits, please leave this website and redirect your attention to alternative web content, which might feel more congruent with your personal views and needs. The great disparity between their words and actions alone, has you running in circles, and trying to make sense of it all.
You'll reluctantly doubt their emotional health and sanity, because one minute they're adoring you, but just an hour or so later they're shutting down, cheating on you or wanting to break up!
I'd had this happen years ago with a Borderline who engaged my assistance. After only two sessions which went very well, she phoned to say that she didn't feel comfortable pursuing this work with me. As I validated her concerns and addressed how my methods might not be a fit for her based on what I'd sensed was her resistance to even consider healthy changeshe accused me of wanting to terminate her as a client!
You've probably gone through this in your own dance with a Borderline, but do not take it personally, or try to convince them that they authored the upset between you.
This is their cognitive distortion at work, and you're not gonna change that. Many Borderlines who call me looking for "healing," reject it as soon as they discover that emotional growth is the central part of this process.
Growth brings change, and change is terrifying for them. Thus, they generally remain pitiful, tireless seekers of something they cannot accommodate, and don't actually want.
Borderlines are deeply insecure. They'll act-out their ambivalent feelings and fears surrounding attachment, with anyone close, even the professional they're engaging for help. They will do with their clinician, precisely what they've done with you.
Borderlines bandy about the word 'love' with casual abandon. They can easily hide sexual and emotional affairs from their partners or spouses, and if you're stupid enough to think it won't happen to You, think again!
In the movie My Fair Lady, Rex Harrison's character sings this plaintive lament; "Why can't a woman be more like a man? Men are so honest and thoroughly square, eternally noble and historically fair.
They present as comfortable or at ease with their sexuality and what man hasn't wished for that his entire adult life?! There are facets of the Borderline that can make you feel like you're with one of the guys. She's forthright, open, easy-going and fascinating, all encased in one lovely package.
She adores all the things you do, and it feels amazing that this delightful creature is so into you.
This is The Hook of course--the honeymoon phase of your relationship, which has you wanting to excuse and overlook her debilitating, castrating, abusive behaviors once you're securely on her fishing line--and that barb is so deeply imbedded in the roof of your mouth, you can't even think of struggling free, for the injury it will cause you.
You drop your guard when she says she's "just into something casual--and you've no cause for concern. The trouble is, those painful, crazy episodes soon begin multiplying, and now you're right in the thick of it.
One of my favorite films, Days of Summer epitomizes your struggle for emotional consistency and solid grounding with a Borderline lover that you'll never have a chance to experience.
Imagine that you're sitting in a boat having baited a fishing lure, and you're waiting for your next dinner meal to swim along and chomp on that hook.
That would be your normal expectation, wouldn't it? Well, the Borderline ignores that lure in the water, and hoists herself out of the water and into your vessel! This is utterly fantastic for any guy who's insecure, and wants to avoid the possibility of rejection if he makes the first move with a gal.
It's also a sure thing you can expect a train wreck up ahead, with a borderline disordered girl. The only cure for attraction to Borderlines, is growing genuine confidence and self-worth, so you're not dependent on being seen like you walk on water.
Every inch of you has been craving that glorious beginning you had together, and I know how much you're wanting it back! Truth is, there may be moments you think it's recaptured, but it will never be what it was at first, because you're already seduced. When there's no challenge or chase, the capture means nothing to a Borderline, which is why so many males get dropped on their heads immediately after leaving their wife and family for one of these gals!
No matter what she says to the contrary, the very moment you're solidly Hers, she doesn't want you anymore sexually or otherwise. Metaphorically, a well-fed, contented house cat will chase a mouse just for the sheer sport of it.
Once the rodent is captured, if it's smart enough to stop moving and play dead, the kitty loses interest and walks away. If the mouse struggles to get free of the cat's grasp, our feline holds on tighter and unwittingly kills its new favorite toy. This is exactly what happens in your dance with a Borderline.
Borderlines have major difficulty trusting anyone. This issue is left over from infancy and early childhood due to poor parenting, so don't personalize their lack of trust in you!
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